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What to Do With Your 401k After Divorce

by Neal Frankle, CFP ®, The article represents the author's opinion. This post may contain affiliate links. Please read our disclosure for more info.

If you have serious marital problems, you have to understand – before you call your divorce lawyer – what divorce will do to your 401k. The reality is there are some issues over which you have no control. But there are things you can do that will have a significant impact on yourself and your family.

If you are in the process of divorce and you own a 401k, there are two issues you are likely very concerned about. First, who will be the 401k beneficiary on your retirement account? The second and more important question is, who gets the money after the divorce?

The beneficiary issue is pretty straightforward. Your spouse is probably the beneficiary on the 401k account by virtue of being your spouse. The only way he wouldn’t be the beneficiary is if he signed off on a beneficiary designation form to remove himself. That likely didn’t happen. But once you are divorced, he won’t be your spouse anymore and that means you can name anyone you want as beneficiary. (We’ll come back to this in a moment.)

In terms of who gets the money, you don’t have a lot of control over that. When you go through a divorce, your spouse’s attorney will request a QDRO – Qualified Domestic Relations Order. This is a document that is issued by the court and directs how retirement assets get split up. Once the court issues the QDRO, your spouse can take the document to your employer and use it to demand his portion of your 401k. Then he’ll probably do a tax-free IRA rollover to his own retirement account.

The most important issue that you face once the divorce is final is what to do with your beneficiary election. This is an often overlooked issue and it can be a critical mistake. If you don’t change the beneficiary election form, your spouse will still get your money if something happens to you – even after the divorce.

And if you have children, you also have to be very careful. Naming your children as beneficiaries can be a great idea. But if you’re not careful, your prior spouse might get his grubby hands on the money anyway. That’s because if something happens to you while your children are still minors, your spouse may end up controlling the money.

How do you avoid that?

In most cases, it’s pretty simple. You can name an adult (any adult you like) as the responsible party. If you do that, you can make sure your creep ex-spouse doesn’t get his/her hands on your money.

Make sure you check with your attorney and the custodian on the wording of this. How you complete your beneficiary form for your 401k or IRA is extremely important. And when you are divorced and have minor children, this is much more important. Take the time to ask the right questions and make sure these issues don’t come back to haunt you.

I met a man named Pat who was getting divorced about two years ago. Unfortunately, he was also dying of cancer at the same time. He was worried because he wanted to make sure his children, not his spouse, would receive his 401k money after he died. The only thing he could do was to get that divorce final before he died. That way, he had the sole authority to change the beneficiary designation form.

In that case, Pat did get the divorce finalized shortly before he passed away. Even though you hopefully aren’t ill, it is still just smart business to get that beneficiary form changed as soon as you can.

If you’ve gone through a divorce, what difficulties did you encounter when it came to your retirement accounts?

 

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  1. el says

    July 9, 2019 at 9:57 AM

    If we divorced years ago without me signing anything because I never got the notice. Judge just granted the divorce, would I still be entitled to the 401k he had back then?

    Reply
    • Neal Frankle, CFP ® says

      July 9, 2019 at 11:42 AM

      Really important to ask your attorney about that.

      Reply
  2. robin says

    April 13, 2019 at 10:12 PM

    wife awarded half of 401k in divorce ten years ago and it is still not moved. Very clearly stated by judge that she is to set up her own account then transfer specific listed amount. Is there a time frame in which she must complete this move?

    Reply
  3. J says

    January 16, 2019 at 3:03 PM

    I just finalized a divorce settlement, and as part of it, my (ex) spouse has to give me approximately $10,000 of their 401k through the retirement order. They were the bread winner in the marriage. I do not have ANY 401k account set up. How will this work? Any thoughts or ideas?

    Reply
    • Neal Frankle, CFP ® says

      February 18, 2019 at 4:45 AM

      Your attorney might get a QDRO. Speak with them about it.

      Reply
  4. Baker says

    August 6, 2018 at 11:50 AM

    My husband has funds held up after his divorce (401K) the divorce has been final for several years, but there is still a hold on his money. How can he get those funds released.

    Reply
    • Neal Frankle, CFP ® says

      August 19, 2018 at 7:39 AM

      His lawyer should do this.

      Reply
  5. Jim says

    October 9, 2016 at 11:47 AM

    I got divorced 6 months ago (all final). I got a new job recently and they are giving me a 401K. Does my ex has the right to ask for benefits from the 401K?

    Reply
    • Neal Frankle, CFP ® says

      October 10, 2016 at 2:20 AM

      Jim. I have never heard of a spouse getting rights in a new 401k AFTER a divorce. Ask your attorney but my guess is you have nothing to worry about.

      Reply
  6. Ann says

    November 30, 2014 at 12:31 PM

    My friend was divorcing his wife but she passed away before the divorce was final. Can she change the beneficiary to someone else on her 401K after he asked for the divorce without him knowing?

    Reply
  7. george says

    April 7, 2013 at 7:50 PM

    Your article is extermely biased towards the female. You negative terms for “him” could also easily apply to “her”. It swings both ways.

    Reply
    • Neal Frankle says

      April 9, 2013 at 10:16 PM

      Sorry you feel this way but of course I had to pick someone to pick on and it’s just the way I went. Clearly, it’s just an example and this cuts both ways. I will try to make this disclosure in the future and thanks for pointing it out.

      Reply
  8. Robert says

    April 3, 2013 at 2:02 PM

    My sister died 3 weeks ago (march 16, 2013 in a tradgic car accident. She was divorced for 7 years from her loser ex-husband. My sister failed to get his name off of her retirement as the beneficiary,( but she was divorced 7 years from him) his sister (the ex) had the evil gall to call the funeral home and ask for a death certificate from the funeral director . He (the funeral director) refused giving the sister anything before he called and consulted with my family. I am OUTRAGED over this ! is there any legal ground to fight this or at least not see him get the entire 30 years of hard work?
    Please let me know I would greatly appreciate any advice….

    Reply
    • Neal Frankle says

      April 3, 2013 at 6:58 PM

      First I am so very sorry about your sister passing away. The truly is terrible. Unfortunately there isn’t much you can if the ex is named as the beneficiary. You don’t have to make it easy for him but you don’t have much of a leg to stand on. Of course, you can always contact an attorney and perhaps there is something they can do. BUt on the face of it, the beneficiary is the beneficiary. I am very sorry to tell you this. But in your shoes, I’d at least consult with an attorney if the amount is substantial. This post

      Reply
  9. Stacey Redmon says

    February 19, 2013 at 6:00 AM

    does it go thru a process thru the courts?

    Reply
    • Neal Frankle says

      February 19, 2013 at 11:37 AM

      You need a QRDO and this is done by divorce attorney and the courts.

      Reply
  10. Stacey Redmon says

    February 19, 2013 at 5:59 AM

    i am divorced as of Nov 7 2012 how do i go about getting half the 401k that i recieved thru the divorce?

    Reply

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