There is just about nothing worse than having an unhappy career and being stuck. It’s a very empty feeling and one I’m familiar with from several years past. It bears paying attention to – and doing something about. You and I are meant to have a better experience than that while we’re on this planet. Right?
Here’s a comment I got recently that brought this topic up. This person read my post on reinventing yourself and came away with a really important question:
What can you do if your situation is completely locked up and you can’t change your career? Let’s say you’re unhappy with your career but there are people who depend on you, what then?
Great question. Have you ever been in this situation? I was a long time ago. But through the School of Hard Knocks, I found a solution. Here are 5 steps I recommend you take if you are facing similar challenges.
1. List what you can’t stand about your job.
The first step in solving any problem is to understand it. And the best way to really understand a problem is by writing about it rather than letting it bounce around in your noggin. So get out a sheet of paper and grab a pen. Write down all the things you dread about your work. Also, write why you feel this way. Here are some ideas that might help you get the ball rolling:
- Your boss is a Class A doofus.
- Your commute sucks.
- Your hours stink.
- You can’t stand the customers you work with.
- The results of what you do leave you feeling empty inside.
Write down your own truth. Don’t feel constrained. Let it all out and take as much time as you need to be really thorough. You’ll feel better and it’s an important first step. Once you’ve done this exercise you are ready to move ahead.
2. What do you like (even a little) about your work?
Is there anything about your job or career that you enjoy? If so, write it down. Don’t worry. I’m not going to try to convince you that your job isn’t as bad as you say it is. I just want you to have the opportunity to really dissect your experience. This way it will be easier for you to plot a course of action. Please write down anything that you appreciate or are grateful for when it comes to your career. Once this is done, continue on to the next phase.
3. Are you really stuck?
Before we go any further, let’s talk about “being stuck” because this is super important. You may indeed be stuck (and if so I still have some solutions). But you may not be as stuck as you think you are. Shortly after I started my career I felt stuck and it was terrible. It was tough enough to build my business. Living in financial fear and feeling stuck at the same time was almost unbearable.
But when I thought about it and went deep, I discovered that I wasn’t as stuck as I thought I was. I looked at my spending, and I figured out what it cost me to live. Then I spoke with my wife and we looked at all the things that we could easily cut if we really had to. Then I looked into alternative ways to earn a living.
If I decided to make a move I would have made less money to be sure. But I could still bring something home. I realized that our family really could survive if I made a career change. Suddenly it didn’t look all that bad anymore.
The most important thing – the family – would be fine. (The only way my family wouldn’t be fine was if I continued being a miserable sour-puss dad. The money wasn’t that important to my family. At the end of the day, we all wanted everyone to be happy – including me. That peace of mind meant more than the fancy vacations and nice dinners.)
And you know what? When I realized this, the pressure was off. I started really enjoying my work. Ain’t that a kick in the head? I was prepared to make a change had I continued being miserable but I realized I wasn’t really stuck anymore. Either way, it was a win-win.
I share this with you because, like me, you may not be as stuck as you think you are. And if you look at your life and profession in a more liberated way, your entire frame of mind could shift. So let’s attack this “stuck” issue head-on.
4. Get Out of Your Trap.
Generally, what keeps us stuck in our jobs is lack of training, lack of money or both. But what you may not realize is that there are solutions to both these problems.
In my case, I thought I was stuck because I thought I needed to make a lot of money and that I couldn’t earn that much any other way. If that describes you, here is the best course of action:
a. Look into career alternatives and find out how much you could really earn.
b. Track your spending so you know exactly what you spend and what it costs you to live.
c. Slash your spending.
d. Get a second job or start a side gig if you have to.
If you really can’t stand your job anymore the question is what are you willing to do in order to change the situation? Are you willing to change your standard of living? Will your family support you in this endeavor?
Can you get unstuck from a rotten career? Absolutely. Is it easy? Not always.
The reality is that everyone has to make a living. I get it. The reader who asked the question has real pressure to bring home the (vegetarian and kosher) bacon. But you get to decide what you standard of living is going to be. This isn’t forced on you. Let’s continue.
5. Improve Your Current Situation
Let’s recap. So far you’ve reviewed what you like and dislike about your job. You have also considered whether or not you are really stuck or not.
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