Are you (or do you know) a lazy husband? Is he really lazy or maybe just a good business person? Here’s the situation. Tim, a blogging buddy of mine is getting grief at home because he rarely helps out with the household duties. Take out the trash? Do the dishes? Nah… I asked him why he doesn’t chip in.
He explained that he’s got a full-time job working as a technical engineer, plus he’s trying to grow his blog into a serious enterprise and discover how to make money on the side.
When he gets home from his day job, he works on his blog. Of course, before diving in he plays with the kids. But as soon as they head off to bed, he heads off to blog.
30 minutes of chores means 30 minutes of reduced production. In his opinion, it’s a better business move for him to stay focused on work. He feels that he can simply add more value for the family by writing than by rinsing.
The weekends are a bit different. He makes a conscious effort to spend as much time as possible together with the family. But whenever the kids are occupied with other activities, he’s back at the grindstone churning out more posts.
My buddy’s wife also works. Janice puts in her 40 hours a week as a dental assistant. Then she spends the remainder of her waking moments taking care of the family.
Janice understands that Tim is trying to build the blog into something that will help them stop borrowing money all the time. But she can’t understand why he can’t take 30 minutes a day and help out.
Tim understands his wife’s frustration but feels he has to put everything he has into the blog if it’s going to amount to anything.
Is Tim taking advantage of Janice? I don’t think it would be right to call him lazy – he’s working 90 hours a week.
But is he off base? Should Janice support Tim by doing all the chores? How would you handle this?
If you have a side job, do you get a hall pass from chores?