My all time fav is “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living”. He deals with this issue in that book as well.

Sounds like you took direct and massive action to address this character defect and it’s paid off. Nicely done….

Of all the arguments, I never changed anybody’s mind. If it was a fact, that I got correct I started to feel bad at being right.

I read “How to Win Friends and Influence People” and it helped me modify my behavior. I usually acknowledge others views verbally and then give a reason why I have my view. I don’t belabor any points. And, if the contention is a fact, I usually say something like, “I may be wrong, I often am, but I heard that….”. Then if I am right, it helps the other save face or not feel as if I am rubbing in their face.

This has helped me keep my hotbuttons in check.