Comments on: 3 Parenting Myths Debunked

By: How to instantly position Yourself

How to instantly position Yourself — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 14:49:37 +0000

As a Newbie, I am always searching online for articles that can help me. Thank you

By: Joel

Joel — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 16:31:47 +0000

I have a two-and-a-half year old daughter (actually, today is her 18-month birthday) and #2 really resonated with me. We’ve bought Maggie a lot of toys — like, our living room is packed full of them. I don’t think we bought them for us, necessarily, but we bought them because wanted her to be happy. But as you point out, close contact with her parents makes her much more happy than anything. Thanks for reminding me.

Speaking of which, the truism that really resonates with me is that you should simply spend time with your kids. If you’re in the same room but not interacting with them, close the magazine/turn off the computer/put down your iPhone and get on the floor with them. The emails can wait.
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By: Neal Frankle

Neal Frankle — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 00:58:55 +0000

Right.@Sharon,

We imagine all this “reality” about our decisions and how they impact others (like our children). At the end of the day, the other people in our lives experience our decisions quite differently. Amazingly helpful comment Sharon.
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By: karyn

karyn — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 23:41:05 +0000

@Sharon. Thanks for that comment because we make decisions as parents but I’m always worried the kids are going to think we were nuts or that they missed out. Of course, they might not miss all the “stuff” but they’ll probably still think our choices were nuts, lol!

By: Sharon

Sharon — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 22:55:40 +0000

This is the first time I’ve commented, but I wanted to because I think this article is terrific. I don’t have kids, but in recently speaking to my mom she said she felt bad that she and dadn’t couldn’t afford to buy us more “stuff” when we were kids. Honestly, I never missed it! I never felt deprived. We learned how to be creative with what we did have and spent a lot of time being active instead of stuck in front of the tv. I feel very blessed to have had the opportunity to learn and benefit from not having too much “stuff”. Thanks!

By: karyn

karyn — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 20:56:18 +0000

One thing that I’ve had to let go (and continually let go) is that there’s a “right” way to do anything – whether it’s the birth plan, co-sleeping or not co-sleeping, what type of schooling, what type of discipline, etc. All of those decisions are different for every family, for every parent, and even for every kid, even when they’re in the same family! So as much as I would like to have some pat answers, I’m trying to learn to make day-by-day (sometimes hour-by-hour) decisions for my family. That’s interesting, btw, about the kibbutz. I’ve always been strangely drawn to the idea but I don’t think I’m social enough (not even socialist, just social).

By: Rochelle

Rochelle — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 20:56:16 +0000

Terrific post..honest and true! The “stuff” eventually ends up in trash heaps..the love and connection lasts forever!!!

By: admin

admin — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 19:26:09 +0000

That’s a real deep compliment. Thanks.

By: wrc

wrc — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 13:17:48 +0000

This is one of you best posts ever. I don’t have kids and have no plans to have kids, but I really enjoyed this post. This gave me an honest idea of who you and your family really are and how much you mean to each other.

By: Ken

Ken — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 19:28:55 +0000

Yeah…the stuff does not work…their self-esteems will be OK without some stuff…as a parent we let the ‘stuff’ babysit them and allow us to do other things..some importnat..some not…we don’t need to forget it’s the time with them that makes the impressions that last….good post!