Comments on: Respond to “Help Save Our Marriage” and Weekend Links

By: shoes

shoes — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 17:43:34 +0000

You made some good points there. I did a search on the topic and found most people will agree with

By: y3 shoes

y3 shoes — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 19:21:22 +0000

You made some good points there. I did a search on the topic and found most people will agree with

By: sport shoes

sport shoes — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 04:49:43 +0000

You made some good points there. I did a search on the topic and found most people will agree with

By: Neal

Neal — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 18:57:24 +0000

A great idea Financially Smart. Do any shows come to mind?

By: FinanciallySmart

FinanciallySmart — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 19:44:03 +0000

Hey Neal why not find a show that speak exactly to their situation and give them to watch reminding them that if there are any questions the offer still stands. Sometimes fear consume us and prevent us from achieving Anna husband needs to let go off that fear. Unless he do this he will continue to be the miser and cause unhappiness which is unnecessary.

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uberVU - social comments — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 18:53:12 +0000

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By: Joel

Joel — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 19:54:51 +0000

I think that’s a great idea. If nothing else, it will show them (or at least Anna) that your heart is in the right place. Good luck (to them and you!).

By: Neal

Neal — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 19:50:43 +0000

Joel,

First, I’m really happy for you (daughters are the best…I have 3 of them!)

Also, I’m thinking, hey, maybe this post is the help. I’ve written my thoughts and everyone else has chimed in too. This way, it’s even more objective…..whadya think?

Could that have an impact?

By: Joel

Joel — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 19:20:23 +0000

Well, I’ve been the “Imelda Marcos” of the couple before, and I have to say that our money issues were undoubtedly the result of a general unhappiness in our marriage.

True, we had different philosophies about money. But the frostiness between us made talking about these issues that much harder.

If you want to help these people, and you were willing to do so for 30 minutes for free earlier, maybe you could type up some advice and send it along. Say, “Here, look — here’s what I’m thinking you should do. Notice how I’m not trying to up-sell you or get you to buy anything [note: don't try to up-sell them or get them to buy anything]. I just want to try to help you out — this isn’t a new problem, and your issues can be solved… etc.

Then, well… you’ve done what you can. I think there must be some way for Anna and Mike to work this out.

As for me, my ex and I split five years ago. I remarried a few years later, and now I have a gorgeous two-year-old daughter and a wife I’m crazy about. Our finances are doing well. So there you go.

By: Neal

Neal — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 18:13:17 +0000

I agree w/everyone this time.

Ret Sav…..I should have made myself available rather than infuse myself……DOOH!

Susan & Rgurien, I think you are on it….their problems are relational first and financial second.

Matt SF – Yep. A cup of coffee probably would have been a better suggestion. I really don’t care how they do it, I just really dislike seeing people suffer when they don’t have to.