Comments on: Mother’s Day Idea – Total Boycott – The Jury Is In http://wealthpilgrim.com/mothers-day-boycott-the-jury-is-in/ WealthPilgrim.com - A Journey To Self, Health and Wealth Fri, 10 Feb 2012 13:07:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Mitchell Allen http://wealthpilgrim.com/mothers-day-boycott-the-jury-is-in/#comment-648 Mitchell Allen Sat, 16 May 2009 18:42:32 +0000 http://wealthpilgrim.com/?p=1870#comment-648 As I cheekily commented upon thunbing up this post, this is one of the more interesting forms of link-bait. Really, what can people say? There is no right or wrong. Just ask an employee at Hallmark. Or a person who spent a childhood of abuse at the hands of his mother. I love provocative questions like this because it forces me to ponder my motivations in responding (ergo, link-bait!!!) On the one hand, if I advocate a boycott, will I be seen as a misogynistic ogre? On the other hand, what can I possibly add to the conversation in favor of celebrating the people who labor to keep the human race going? Let's see what happens: I think we should not boycott holidays. Whatever reasons we have for our displeasure, they have little to do with the enjoyment others derive from participation. There. I wimped out. :) Cheers, Mitch As I cheekily commented upon thunbing up this post, this is one of the more interesting forms of link-bait.

Really, what can people say? There is no right or wrong. Just ask an employee at Hallmark.
Or a person who spent a childhood of abuse at the hands of his mother.

I love provocative questions like this because it forces me to ponder my motivations in responding (ergo, link-bait!!!)
On the one hand, if I advocate a boycott, will I be seen as a misogynistic ogre? On the other hand, what can I possibly add to the conversation in favor of celebrating the people who labor to keep the human race going?

Let’s see what happens:

I think we should not boycott holidays. Whatever reasons we have for our displeasure, they have little to do with the enjoyment others derive from participation.

There. I wimped out. :)

Cheers,

Mitch

]]> By: Neal http://wealthpilgrim.com/mothers-day-boycott-the-jury-is-in/#comment-636 Neal Fri, 15 May 2009 23:13:20 +0000 http://wealthpilgrim.com/?p=1870#comment-636 Well said rj. Do you think though the focus on this one day is a benefit or a detriment to the relationship? Well said rj.

Do you think though the focus on this one day is a benefit or a detriment to the relationship?

]]> By: rjleaman http://wealthpilgrim.com/mothers-day-boycott-the-jury-is-in/#comment-627 rjleaman Fri, 15 May 2009 16:11:27 +0000 http://wealthpilgrim.com/?p=1870#comment-627 Actually, 'Mother's Day' or 'Mothering Sunday' has a long and respectable tradition in the UK and Europe. The idea was to honoour the mother of the household and give her a special day off-duty, with perhaps a small gift (handmade, of course, in the days before industrialization) as a token of affection and appreciation. Naturally, Hallmark and its kind saw a golden opportunity there, and therein lies the problem - it's not Mother's Day that's flawed, but the commercialization of it. And if expressions of love have to involve spending money, that would suggest that we're in pretty bad shape as a society. Actually, ‘Mother’s Day’ or ‘Mothering Sunday’ has a long and respectable tradition in the UK and Europe. The idea was to honoour the mother of the household and give her a special day off-duty, with perhaps a small gift (handmade, of course, in the days before industrialization) as a token of affection and appreciation. Naturally, Hallmark and its kind saw a golden opportunity there, and therein lies the problem – it’s not Mother’s Day that’s flawed, but the commercialization of it. And if expressions of love have to involve spending money, that would suggest that we’re in pretty bad shape as a society.

]]> By: Andy http://wealthpilgrim.com/mothers-day-boycott-the-jury-is-in/#comment-603 Andy Tue, 12 May 2009 16:55:50 +0000 http://wealthpilgrim.com/?p=1870#comment-603 Nicely written Neal. I can't wait to read the various comments. Nicely written Neal.

I can’t wait to read the various comments.

]]> By: Neal http://wealthpilgrim.com/mothers-day-boycott-the-jury-is-in/#comment-600 Neal Tue, 12 May 2009 15:55:53 +0000 http://wealthpilgrim.com/?p=1870#comment-600 Thanks PW and Nancy. PW, I am sorry for your loss. I know it hurts..... I am learning so much from all you Wealth Pilgrims..... Yes. I'm hearing from you that it's a question of balance. I can see that what may be meaningful to one person may not have meaning to someone else. I get it. I think the bottom line is that we should be the ones deciding what has meaning rather than allow Madison Avenue to sell us. Thanks PW and Nancy.

PW, I am sorry for your loss. I know it hurts…..

I am learning so much from all you Wealth Pilgrims…..

Yes. I’m hearing from you that it’s a question of balance. I can see that what may be meaningful to one person may not have meaning to someone else. I get it.

I think the bottom line is that we should be the ones deciding what has meaning rather than allow Madison Avenue to sell us.

]]> By: tom http://wealthpilgrim.com/mothers-day-boycott-the-jury-is-in/#comment-602 tom Tue, 12 May 2009 15:54:58 +0000 http://wealthpilgrim.com/?p=1870#comment-602 Well there is of course a balance to strive for, although for some it may not be that way. Imagine someone who makes good money like 100K, for them spending lots of money on someone may be the way they show appreciation. The problem comes in when their intentions are otherwise or when the receiver of the gift takes advantage. So in the end it is about a communication barrier. Well there is of course a balance to strive for, although for some it may not be that way.

Imagine someone who makes good money like 100K, for them spending lots of money on someone may be the way they show appreciation.
The problem comes in when their intentions are otherwise or when the receiver of the gift takes advantage.

So in the end it is about a communication barrier.

]]> By: PW http://wealthpilgrim.com/mothers-day-boycott-the-jury-is-in/#comment-597 PW Tue, 12 May 2009 14:10:55 +0000 http://wealthpilgrim.com/?p=1870#comment-597 My husband's and my mom are now both deceased. I am happy for every celebration we had throughout the years. Rather then a monitary time,it got the family to stop their daily rush and eat together, sometimes in a restaurant, sometimes at home at the grill. Older kids, grandkids and even great grandkids had a special time to spend with all the moms.They were precious moments,with nice photos for our memories. Can be cheap or expensive. It just made everyone stop and spend time together. My husband’s and my mom are now both deceased. I am happy for every celebration we had throughout the years. Rather then a monitary time,it got the family to stop their daily rush and eat together, sometimes in a restaurant, sometimes at home at the grill. Older kids, grandkids and even great grandkids had a special time to spend with all the moms.They were precious moments,with nice photos for our memories. Can be cheap or expensive. It just made everyone stop and spend time together.

]]> By: Nancy from Massachusetts http://wealthpilgrim.com/mothers-day-boycott-the-jury-is-in/#comment-595 Nancy from Massachusetts Tue, 12 May 2009 13:15:47 +0000 http://wealthpilgrim.com/?p=1870#comment-595 In some ways I agree with Andy, that buying the perfect gift for someone you love, does make you appreciate them more. That being said, some people (and I do know some that are like this) feel that the only way to properly show appreciation or love, is to buy them something. I would rather receive flowers for no reason during the year (which I regularly do) than receive them because the calendar says I should (the same goes for Valentines day). For Fathers Day, Hubby will get a handmade card and will probably go hit a bucket of balls with our son, then we'll have a nice meal. However, if I happen to find him something at the store, I will pick it up and our son can give it to him on that day. Even if it's just a new pair of golf socks... In some ways I agree with Andy, that buying the perfect gift for someone you love, does make you appreciate them more. That being said, some people (and I do know some that are like this) feel that the only way to properly show appreciation or love, is to buy them something.
I would rather receive flowers for no reason during the year (which I regularly do) than receive them because the calendar says I should (the same goes for Valentines day). For Fathers Day, Hubby will get a handmade card and will probably go hit a bucket of balls with our son, then we’ll have a nice meal. However, if I happen to find him something at the store, I will pick it up and our son can give it to him on that day. Even if it’s just a new pair of golf socks…

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