Comments on: Couples Fighting about Money. Is It Your Fault? http://wealthpilgrim.com/couples-fighting-for-and-over-money-is-it-your-fault/ WealthPilgrim.com -No Money Worries. No Matter What. Mon, 21 May 2012 14:36:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Pam McCormick http://wealthpilgrim.com/couples-fighting-for-and-over-money-is-it-your-fault/#comment-3008 Pam McCormick Tue, 22 Dec 2009 16:58:56 +0000 http://wealthpilgrim.com/?p=4260#comment-3008 I was wondering about advice for couples who earn very differently? I earn a large amount more than my husband and he benefits tremendously from it.We do differ on our money views any ideas? I was wondering about advice for couples who earn very differently? I earn a large amount more than my husband and he benefits tremendously from it.We do differ on our money views any ideas?

]]> By: Neal http://wealthpilgrim.com/couples-fighting-for-and-over-money-is-it-your-fault/#comment-2112 Neal Thu, 24 Sep 2009 23:19:57 +0000 http://wealthpilgrim.com/?p=4260#comment-2112 Chris, I think for most people, you are right. But I've seen many people with incomes that far out-pace their spending...yet one partner remains ultra-frugal. How do you get this person to agree on a budget? My experience tells me they are in fear and it's irrational fear. Chris,

I think for most people, you are right. But I’ve seen many people with incomes that far out-pace their spending…yet one partner remains ultra-frugal.

How do you get this person to agree on a budget?

My experience tells me they are in fear and it’s irrational fear.

]]> By: Chris http://wealthpilgrim.com/couples-fighting-for-and-over-money-is-it-your-fault/#comment-2111 Chris Thu, 24 Sep 2009 21:53:42 +0000 http://wealthpilgrim.com/?p=4260#comment-2111 I wrote yesterday on my blog about how couples should argue about spending differences. Most relationship experts agree that a rational argument is good for a marriage, and it's certainly better than letting emotions fester. As to your question, I don't think frugality can be irrational, unless you have an enormous income stream, or your savings goal is itself irrational. When two people have different views on spending, I think it's important to (a) have a budget that allows for some (but not too much) spending, and (b) identify what situations lead to emotional/excess spending, and try to avoid those. I wrote yesterday on my blog about how couples should argue about spending differences. Most relationship experts agree that a rational argument is good for a marriage, and it’s certainly better than letting emotions fester.

As to your question, I don’t think frugality can be irrational, unless you have an enormous income stream, or your savings goal is itself irrational.

When two people have different views on spending, I think it’s important to (a) have a budget that allows for some (but not too much) spending, and (b) identify what situations lead to emotional/excess spending, and try to avoid those.

]]> By: MoneyNing http://wealthpilgrim.com/couples-fighting-for-and-over-money-is-it-your-fault/#comment-2110 MoneyNing Thu, 24 Sep 2009 20:31:32 +0000 http://wealthpilgrim.com/?p=4260#comment-2110 When it comes to two people, it's not a matter of "who's fault it is". It's just a tug-of-war of what each party can tolerate. So, the responsibility lies on both of them to just work it out without thinking about who's fault it really is. When it comes to two people, it’s not a matter of “who’s fault it is”. It’s just a tug-of-war of what each party can tolerate. So, the responsibility lies on both of them to just work it out without thinking about who’s fault it really is.

]]> By: Neal http://wealthpilgrim.com/couples-fighting-for-and-over-money-is-it-your-fault/#comment-2109 Neal Thu, 24 Sep 2009 19:15:20 +0000 http://wealthpilgrim.com/?p=4260#comment-2109 So, if she isn't working outside the house, he should put $ into an account for her each month and then butt out.....not a bad idea at all. So, if she isn’t working outside the house, he should put $ into an account for her each month and then butt out…..not a bad idea at all.

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