Ask your buddy if he’ll have enough with all his blogging income to pay for his divorce and child support.

If he’s this obsessed with it now, it’s probably detracting from the time with his kids as well. He’s gotta check his priorities.

I do a bit here and there when the kids are around or the wife’s doing something in the house, but for the most part, it’s 10P-11:30 or so for me. Kids to bed 830. Time w wife/help in house til 10. then work.

I just sacrifice sleep to keep up with my demands.
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Let’s check it out!
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11pm-2am is good blog time. Now tell him to help out with the house or face permanent resentment from a wife who works full time!

Best,

Sam
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Your framing this as a business decision is really good stuff.

* Therapy/counseling fees leading up to the divorce
* 50% of everything Tim has now
* 50% of everything Tim will have for the next 5+ years
* Child support payments until the kids are somewhere around age 18
* Losing the house/apartment
* Finding a new place to live
* Lawyer fees in the thousands
* Court fees in the thousands
* Loss of work time and income due to all of the above
* Decreased work efficiency for years while he gets his own life back together
* Increased medical bills from stress
* Still have to clean up his own mess

Or:

* 30 minutes a day cleaning up his own mess, plus some of the family’s mess.

The right thing to do seems pretty straight-forward to me, financially. And personally. And ethically. Really, is his side-business going to be so wildly profitable that it will pay for all of the above, and extra besides?

Tim might also want to consider picking one day out of the week where his wife gets a break from the household chores – and Tim does them instead. Driven, as I’m sure he is, to make all his jobs a success, I’m sure he could use a physical and mental break from the constant work-work-work.

There are very few people who can put in 90 hours a week on the same job(s) for months on end without a break (raising kids and keeping house is WORK). The chances that two of them married each other are, well, remote.

Good luck to Tim and Janice. I hope they work this out.

I can tell you this- after working my own FT +1/2 PT job, coming home to cook, clean and take care of my son….if I’m doing it alone while hubby is off “doing his own thing”, he’ll be sleeping alone too!

That being said, I hardly help out around the house…just because I am lazy. I get called out on it all the time by The Wife, but I don’t blame it on time!
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